How do you remember your last trip here?
"The last time I came was with a new boyfriend and it wasn't a relationship
that was going to last. I always tell people: "Don't go there, unless
you are really sure you're in love." This place intensifies whatever
emotion you have going. When I came here the last time, I still had a
lot of unfinished baggage with me. I had just gone through a really terrible
divoce and lost my father. I remember being out here on matus (islets)
and under the beautiful moonlight just weeping uncontrollably over the
loss of my father and finding myself deeply questioning everything in
my life. Which doesn't go down well if you're trying to star a new relationship!"
In spite of that, you came back to the island of Intensity as you put
it, and you are having a wonderful time..
"Yes, I came back because I feel very secure about
the relationship James and I have. I feel our relationship grows in leaps
and bounds every day. It doesn't mean it's always easy. I think the pressures
of the world, the changes in my career, the pace at which we live our
lives, our commitment to six children can make life- challenging.
What was the most moving part of your ceremony?
Well, first of all, watching James be rowed in wearing that beautiful
headdress.
At first I figured this is kind of corny- a 
couple
of pink people wearing coconuts and feathers is like some kind of bad
movie- but there was actually something kind of wonderful about him wrapped
in his white cermonial pareo and headdres. We were sitting there in a
very private ceremony, but there were all of these wonderful people focusing
on celebrating our love, with the children that came from that love, with
the children we had so much trouble conceiving- everything together made
the cremony extremely special.
" I think because James and I have been up and down
in terms of marriage and have had relationships that didn't work, it has
been even more profound for us to celebrate the ten-year mark with our
two children.
WEDDING PHOTOS
You are obviously glad you brought them on this trip...
" Having the children here has really helped. Just the joy of seeing them play, the joy of seeing them making art, constantly wanting to be creative, building forts or sandcastles or spending hours and hours snorkelling and looking at the most beautiful coral reefs and fish- that has been very special. They had to bring their homework with them because of the timing of the trip, and even that hasn't been a problem. They got the concept- you do your homework and you get to play in paradise.
"And I know the boys have really enjoyed being here with us. I asked them what was the most fun for them and they both answered in unison: 'scuba diving!' This has been a great holiday for us all."
How do you discipline the twins?
"People don't realize that although they are twins, they are completely different and must be treated as such. From the moment of conception they were compared. It is ' this one' and ' that one'- that one is smaller and this one is bigger; that one is more cautious and this one is a fearless daredevil- they are completely different.
"Sometimes they fight, and other times they love and protect one another and help each other in whatever the endeavour is. Kris will always ask John to help build something, because John is really great at building things, with very creative ideas. Kris, on the other hand, isn't afraid of things and is stronger. He really helps his brother most by egging him on to try things he might not normally."
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